Good morning, everyone!
If you haven’t noticed from my latest wrap up posts, I’ve been reading a lot of new adult lately. I always end up reading all of it on my kindle – because that way people can’t read the titles, and they can’t see the cover, and so unless they follow my blog they won’t really know what I’m reading… it’s not to say I’m ashamed. I’ll always read whatever I want and that’s just that. But I’m more curious about what other people will think of my reading tastes.
I get enough judgment from some people when I let them know how much I love Twilight. I’ll always defend the books and even the movies, despite them not being the best. Yet, sometimes when I am discussing those books or films I get a lot of negativity, or a lot of disbelief, or people even say, “Well, we can’t trust your judgment on books in general if those are the kind you like.” And when I heard that, it got me thinking… what does what you enjoy reading say about you?
When people say they enjoy romance, a lot of people believe that they are a romantic person because of it. In most cases, I’ll have to confess they are right. Or when someone says they enjoy fantasy, you assume it’s because they have a vivid imagination. Horror infers to someone finding humor in the horror, or being tough enough to take it. And enjoying classics? Many people see that as having elegance, taste or being generally smart enough to understand those books.
But what if someone (like me) enjoys reading m/m new adult romances? I’m not male myself, I don’t define myself as anything within the LGBTQ+ community… so what does that really say about me? Am I just another romantic, because it is still a romance, and I just like some intensity? Or what of me enjoying a BDSM novel. I sincerely doubt BDSM is my kind of thing, but I can still get some enjoyment out of reading it. Hmm…
Take a second to think about it, before moving on to the next part of my post: what do you think me enjoying m/m romances and BDSM say about me or my reading preferences?
This discussion post is really mostly centered around me and my tastes. But when I come to think of it, even the statements I made about the general genres and what it could allude to when it comes to someone else’s personalities, is mostly based on assumption. Generally, from my understanding, when it comes to assumptions people can be very very wrong. So even though what you read may say something about you and your personality, there are so many elements to a genre, that it is impossible to generalize and determine what it is for someone without them telling you.
The best thing to do when you’re curious as to why someone likes a genre or a particular book? Just ask them! No assumptions are necessary.
I know why I like m/m romances, and it may be for a different reason than some would assume. There’s no nonsense, no petty drama (because there’s no females involved), and no exaggerated tropes like I’ve been seeing in YA lately. I feel like I’m mostly enjoying the genre because it contradicts YA so much. I know I liked the one BDSM book (can’t say I like the genre when I’ve only read the one) because I liked the two characters a lot – I doubt the BDSM element meant that much to me, actually. I was also pretty curious, so there’s that.
I wonder if those reasons were what you determined or not.
Main conclusion: the world would be a better place if we didn’t assume things, despite that being hard to do.
Olivia’s Question: What’s an assumption you often make about people without realising you’re doing it?